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I just finished writing a new book that gave me an idea. (I'll tell you
more about the book in another newsletter. It'll give you ideas, too!) This week I'd like to take a
break from the normal Q&A feature to ask for your input on a new Ask
The Headhunter feature that I'm thinking about starting.
A key part of the new book is a series of sidebars in each chapter
that I call How to say it. It's advice on how to say what
needs to be said when you're talking to someone about a job.
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In this newsletter I try to teach simple concepts about how to
select a company when you're job hunting, how to get in the door for an
interview, how to explain your value to a manager and much more. I also
discuss the importance of controlling salary negotiations, getting the
information you need from a headhunter before sending him your resume
and managing your interactions with your boss.
However, good as my ideas might be (and sometimes maybe you don't
think they are!), I find that readers might understand a concept we are
discussing, only to freeze up when the time comes to apply it: "I
get it, but when I have to talk to a headhunter or to a manager, How do
I say it?"
How you say it can make or break an opportunity. Your tone, the words
you choose and the signals you give all combine to determine whether you
get what you want. There are some good books about the quality of
communication (listed at the end of this column), but in the context of
Ask The Headhunter I think it's important to provide some simple How
to say it suggestions that will give you the confidence to try
This all stems from something brilliant my friend and lawyer Bernie
Dietz said to me a few years ago. We were talking about how I get paid
for licensing Ask The Headhunter features to other publishers. I might
spend an hour or more talking with a prospect about how my features can
help their publication, but at the end of the conversation no one has
broached the topic of money. There are times when I've wasted hours of
work, only to find we're so far apart on money that one short discussion
would have sufficed.
So I asked, "Bernie, how do I bring up money?"
His suggestion was bold and elegant. He told me to raise the topic of
licensing fees by asking the prospect, "So, what's the money
That's How to say it... (See? Even though I can
confidently negotiate salary with a client for one of my job candidates,
I can't always think straight when it's about my own work. It's a case
of being too close to the deal. We all need advisors sometimes!)
Bernie's simple suggestion is brilliant because it enables me to ask
it right off the bat because it's so casual and off-the-cuff. It's
innocent and enthusiastic. No one expects it. It's not a demand. I say
it with a smile. And it always works. It's not magic, but knowing how to
say it gives me the confidence to deal with one of the touchiest
situations in sales -- and it saves me a lot of time. It can also save
you time when you're talking to someone about a job.
How to say it
Let's look at a few examples of How to say it that I've
occasionally provided in this newsletter:
A reader's boss was moving on and she felt she could do his job as
well as her own while saving the company money. But she lacked
assertiveness. I suggested that she walk into the big boss's office,
close the door and say:
"I'd like to talk to you about Mary's [your old boss's] job. I
think my present job and Mary's could be combined to save the company
money and to improve our workflow and the quality of our output. Can I
show you what I mean, and ask for your thoughts on my ideas? What I'm
telling you is that I'd like to take on this management position, but I
think it should be reconfigured. If I can't show you that I'd do a great
job, you clearly shouldn't promote me. But I think you'll like what I
have to say."
In another column, a reader interviewed for a job only to have the
personnel manager attempt to bring her back for a follow-up interview
for a lower level job in a different department. How to say it politely
you'd like me to interview for a position different from the one
I applied for, please send me that job description. I'll study
it and let you know if I want to interview for it. In the
meantime, I'd like to continue my interviews with the manager
for the job I originally applied for."
A student about to graduate with a degree in engineering didn't know
how to break the ice with companies in a distant city because he had no
contacts. I suggested he find technical articles by engineers in those
companies and contact them to express his interest in their work, and
then ask for advice. How to say it:
don't expect you to hire me, but it would mean a lot if you
could help me get a better idea about how to get a technical
career off on the right foot. What's the best way for a new grad
like me to break into the right kind of job? I'm willing to work
hard and pay my dues, but I want to make sure I'm in the right
place, doing the right kind of work. Could you give me your
Readers tell me that having the right words often makes an enormous
difference to their confidence and helps them take the next step to
actually pick up the phone or to write an e-mail. My words aren't magic
and they may not always work. My objective is to help people take that
next step with a measure of confidence, rather than do nothing at all.
Bernie Dietz helped me over the hump. I hope I can help you.
Do you need
I'd like to start a How to say it feature on Ask The
Headhunter to help you find the words you need to succeed. Tell me what
situations make you freeze up and sweat bullets because you don't know
how to say what you need to say. I'll do my best to offer suggestions
about the words you need.
The more specific the situations, the better. I'll publish the best ones
along with my tips and
invite alternate suggestions from you, too. We'll all learn
something about how to say it better.
Please send your quandaries here: Nick,
tell me how to say it!
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